26 Dating Tips for Ladies

1. Clothes
2. Makeup
3. Hair and cleanliness
4. Perfume
5. Show Appreciation
6. Don’t be needy
7. Be poised
8. Think Win-Win
9. Be Kind/Generous/Polite
10. Responsible
11. Gives attention
12. Organized
13. Warm and inviting
14. Conversation skill
15. Do not gossip, complain
16. Be discreet
17. Say what you mean
18. Good listener
19. University: helpful but not necessary
20: Home Economics
21. Culture
22. Career/talented
23. Knows what she wants
24. Knows how to get what she wants
25. Proactive
26. Committed


Appearance

1. Clothes
A true lady has real skill in how she buys and wears her clothes. The cost and brand do not matter. The point is her appearance creates a holistic image of a whole, she doesn’t draw attention to any of her parts. A lady’s clothes don’t draw attention to her legs, her butt, or bust. Instead, people compliment her and say she looks great rather than saying her clothes or even her body look great.

2. Makeup
Similarly, a lady needs skill in applying makeup in the right amount, not too little and not too much. The point of wearing makeup is to make yourself look better but not to the point where the makeup itself is noticeable. Your makeup around your eyes should draw subtle appreciation to your eyes and even your entire face, something that is uniquely you. Don’t make the mistake of drawing attention to your makeup – anyone can bay that at a store. Likewise, don’t wear lipstick that is noticeable as lipstick, instead put on something that makes your lips look more attractive in an indefinable way. If you don’t know much about applying makeup, ask a woman who uses makeup well, or just ask the women who work the makeup counter at a department store.

3. Hair and cleanliness
Ladies can wear their hair either long or short depending upon their circumstances. Generally, older women should have short hair because longer hair tends to show its damage and age more easily. Regardless of your hairstyle, a lady should have clean hair. She should also have to bathe regularly, I recommend every day she should have clean fingernails, but you don’t have to paint/polish them. While it’s okay if you want to have hairy legs and hairy armpits, most men are not attracted to that. You should expend the men you date to be clean and well dressed, too. That indicates they respect you. However, please understand that men sometimes need to work hard and get dirty. A lady appreciates it when men sweat so she doesn’t have to.

4. Perfume
A lady doesn’t have to wear perfume, a natural clean smell is fine. However, if she does apply perfume, it should not be too strong. Again the same with all the other physical elements of your attractiveness, you don’t want people to praise your clothes, your hair, your makeup, you want them to praise you. So as with your makeup, you want people to think you smell good, not your perfume smells good. If people can smell your perfume, as perfume, you’re wearing too much.

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5. Show Appreciation
A lady will show appreciation and gratitude to others around her. She will compliment and thank those who help her. She will notice those who serve her and she will go out of her way to show her appreciation to everybody who helps her in any way. She is especially focused on showing gratitude toward her date which naturally makes her date feel proud. Remember that you get more of whatever you encourage and less of whatever you discourage. This is how a lady motivates her man.

6. Don’t be needy
Don’t give off an air of desperation or neediness. Also, don’t surround yourself with desperate people. A lady shows others that she is successful and competent in her life. She doesn’t absolutely need people to do things for her even though she shows appreciation for what they do for her. A lady is not dependent on others as she is not a wreck in need of salvation.

7. Be poised
Poise is the word most often associated with ladies and Olympic gymnasts. Like a gymnast, a lady has perfect control over her body, in that that doesn’t use unnecessary or excessive movement. She is elegant and when she isn’t, it intended for maximum impact. Likewise, she doesn’t use unnecessary or excessive words; she’s very efficient and competent in what she says and what she does. She doesn’t flail around, she doesn’t waste her time, she doesn’t mince words at critical moments. In general, she is very graceful in her words and in her actions.

8. Think Win-Win
A lady doesn’t compete with others and she especially doesn’t compete with men. While most men truly enjoy competition, a lady will let men have their glory, she will let her date enjoy his hard-won honors. That’s because she’s not thinking that for her to gain others must lose. She rejects Win-Lose thinking, which often degenerates into Lose-Lose activities. A lady openly cheers her man as he becomes more and more successful because she has been quietly helping him become a winner and as an essential teammate she shares the victory. She is a winner who makes others winners. Nearly every successful man has a lady in his life that’s helping him behind the scenes.

9. Be Kind/Generous/Polite
A lady has excellent character, she is kind and generous; she is polite. Everyone enjoys being around her because she doesn’t hurt people and said she’s constantly looking to help them. And when the people around her make mistakes, she doesn’t draw attention to their mistakes instead she helps people overcome those mistakes. But she is not a pushover, she knows when to move on from a bad situation where someone is taking advantage of her. She focuses her time on where her presence is most useful.

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10. Responsible
A lady is a person whom other people gravitate toward. She has gravitas from a life of successfully handling her obligations. She is a person who is very reliable and responsible. She accepts the burdens that others give her and she quietly helps them resolve their issues. She doesn’t make excuses. She doesn’t forget her promises, she isn’t unduly late. A lady is a person who people trust to get things done.

11. Gives attention, does not openly seek it
A lady can draw attention to herself at any time but instead prefers to draw focus toward other people; especially those who are doing good and noble things. When she’s on a date, a lady will be honest and discuss what’s going on in her life but will always bring the conversation back to her date. A lady’s attention makes her date feel that he is the most charming gentleman in the world. She has the skill to get him involved in her concern and become a champion of them, all the while allowing him to express his deeper self.

12. Organized
A lady is organized, she has her act together. On the outside, her clothes match her appearance and her external appearance matches her internal life as well. When people visit her home everything is neat and orderly. Her kitchen is clean and her bathroom is clean, too. Of course, it requires a lot of work but she does these things out of habit. But even though she is well-organized, she doesn’t draw attention to the bad habits of others or their messes. Instead, she overlooks these flaws or even quietly begins cleaning up their place, too.

13. Warm and inviting
A lady always creates an atmosphere that is warm and inviting. She has a habit of nurturing those who are younger, less experienced, and more fragile. Everybody enjoys being around her and her hospitality is something that others admire. She doesn’t push people away because they are coming at inconvenient times. A lady makes others feel safe and comfortable, wherever she is.


Speech

14. Conversation skill
A lady is very good at conversation, she has a strong conversational skill. And it’s not a shallow vapid way of discourse. Instead, she can have deep and meaningful conversations about various things in life. She doesn’t just talk about herself and her feelings, she doesn’t just parrot back what she heard on the news or her ten best friends on Facebook said. Instead of this, a Lady can discuss current events, art, culture, and politics from multiple viewpoints and doesn’t require everybody to agree with her. She is comfortable with a certain amount of difference of opinion and has the ability to sway others to her views.

15. Do not gossip, complain
A lady controls her tongue wisely. She doesn’t gossip and she doesn’t complain. Whatever her date tells her is privileged information. She doesn’t repeat it to her girlfriends or to another man. While she listens very carefully and she gives her own insightful comments, a private conversation will stay private. She lives by the phrase that “excuses only satisfy those who make them”. A lady doesn’t make excuses for herself, although she might politely make excuses for others to avoid unnecessary conflict.

16. Be discreet
A lady is discrete, she doesn’t draw attention to her clothes, her speech, her manner or her actions. That doesn’t mean that she’s invisible, it’s just that she doesn’t stand on the roof and tell the neighborhood how much money she gives to charity. She doesn’t talk about the troubles that she’s going through to people who don’t even care. She’s not looking for sympathy, she’s not looking to create trouble. When she sees a problem, she doesn’t magnify it, instead, she does her best to minimize it.

17. Say what you mean

A lady can be direct when necessary. Unfortunately, many women tend to avoid clear speech, so that they can’t be held to any particular position or result. In the right company, a lady will be honest and open. A lady will let a good friend know that she does look fat in that dress. A lady will let her date know that the tip he gives as a little too small. But she will do so in the most generous way possible, so that the man won’t feel offended or ashamed. Instead, he will feel motivated to do things in a better way that earns his lady’s praise.

18. Good listener
A lady understands that God gave her two ears and one mouth so she should be she should be twice as good at listening and she is at speaking. She listens with intent and purpose. A lady takes the new things that people say and adds them to what she already understands; prepared and able to ask questions which can increase knowledge and clarify things that are confused. She can bring up points that the original speaker may actually not understand himself. But she doesn’t draw attention to her speech, instead, she draws attention to the fact she’s listening to her date speak.

Education


19. University: helpful but not necessary
In the old days, a university education was pretty much a guarantee to create ladies and gentlemen out of mere boys and girls. Nowadays, universities have set this role of aside and now seek to create revolutionaries. Of course, you can still be a lady at the University it’s just going to be an unpopular choice. Our Universities can still be an excellent place to learn about art, culture, truth, and beauty. A lady can learn a lot from the diversity of appearance as well as the diversity of thought and action as well. However, one can become a lady without the formal university education by surfing the net and modeling herself on the older ladies around her.

20: Home Economics
A lady should be well-versed in the art of cooking and cleaning and financial home management. Incompetence in these areas will lead to problematic relationships with men, whether you like it or not. It should be a treat to have a lady bring you to her house and take care of you. Plus, a lady should be able to generously help someone at their party or group activity, so that she supports their success through her abilities.

21. Culture
A lady should be comfortable in her culture, she should understand (or be interested in understanding) music, art, and philosophy. Traditional Western culture is the standard, and a lady will be well versed in it, but these days there are many subcultures that she may desire to become comfortable with, for her benefit and the benefit of others. Most importantly, a lady doesn’t reject or rebel against culture; she supports and endorses its best aspects and while seeking to uplift its problematic parts.

22. Career/talented
A lady, especially if she’s single, should be successful in her career and she should also have talents that go beyond the career into various hobbies. A lady is an interesting person with many hidden treasures. She is not the person who will stand up on the table and yodel the first time she meets you. But perhaps she does have a background in yodeling on the Swiss Alps and under the right circumstances, she’ll let you have the privilege to discover that.



Vision


23. Knows what she wants
A lady is not completely dependent on a man for her meaning. She can pass the Bechdel test in real life. She has a vision of her future and what she wants to become. A lady knows what is important to her and she knows her strengths, her weaknesses, and her boundaries. A lady is not easily seduced by a man, she’s not easily pressured or manipulated because she is a strong woman in her own right. But hers is a discreet strength that is more concerned with real achievement than personal glory.

24. Knows how to get what she wants
A lady is not a pushover, she is not weak. A lady combines her strong values and understanding of the world with the wisdom of how to get things done. She knows not only what she, wants she knows how to get it. However being a lady, she is not going to pursue victory at any cost. She’s not going to get her desires by taking advantage of others. Instead, she’s going to find those who she can partner with and together they can have success.

25. Proactive
A lady is not passive. She is not a woman who will wait for the world to give her everything she dreams about. Instead, she will identify when needs to be done and she will take action on her own behalf and also on the behalf of those around her. A lady will let her date know when action is called for and why. She will allow him to own the action and the success, content to win quietly.

26. Committed

Lastly, a lady is focused on both the correct actions and the correct results. She is not going to compromise, cut corners or cheat in order to do things the easy way. Instead, she will pay the price herself so that her desires can be satisfied as well as the desires of those around her. A lady appreciates the sacrifices of others and is herself always prepared to sacrifice so that those she loves can succeed.

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2 Responses

  1. Kayd Mob says:

    Yes, you really broke down interesting tips for ladies but I have to disagree with you when you said that “ladies do not compete with others”, for me ladies love competition more than boys.
    If you ask me if they love winning…for sure, they love. I like when you said “every successful man as a lady in his life, matter of fact, a real man must have a lady to hold him down.
    I would love to share this article to my girlfriend, unfortunately, she does not understand English, however thanks for the tips!

    • admin says:

      I guess I would clarify that ladies compete differently than men. Men compete directly and openly. Women who compete directly and openly are not traditionally considered ladies. A lady will complete indirectly. Often a lady will compete through her man. By helping them win, she also wins.

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