20 Dating Tips for Gentlemen

1. Be stable

2. Inspire security

3. Have confidence

4. Display capability

5. Use Humor

6. Have bold humility

7. Back down when wrong

8. Stand up for the underdog

9. Be generous

10. Be loyal

11. Trust

12. Be teachable

13. Be kind

14. Be discreet

15. Forgive

16. Be patient

17. Be zealous

18. Have courage

19. Respect your opponent

20. Fight to win


Strength

1. Be stable
The most basic idea for a gentleman is to have a strength which is under control. It is this strength which attracts both men and women in different ways of course. A gentleman’s strength creates stability in his life and in the life of those around him. The stability comes from never getting too angry or too fearful or two unemotional he keeps his life in balance. and because his life is in Balance he is always prepared to take the correct action at the correct time

Dating tip: it’s well known that our relationship depends on stability so as a gentleman you need to do your best to create this kind of stability in your relationship by avoiding extra emotional extremes and avoiding behavioral extremes as well and balanced in your relationship with your girlfriend.

2. Inspire security
The strength of a gentleman also creates security not only for himself but again for those around him. Those who are weak and those who are fearful cannot generate security. Those who have strength but it is out of control also cannot create security. Only those who have strength under control can bring security.

Dating tip: you want to create security and your relationship with your girlfriend, first of all, you have to show that security in yourself and secondly you want to inspire her to feel secure and if you do that she’ll be naturally drawn to you the more difficult life is for her the more she will draw to you because you provide her with security. PS. If, on a date, you are clearly not the most dangerous person in the room, escort your girlfriend out of that room.

3. Have confidence
The strength of a gentleman also gives him confidence that he is able to deal with any situation. This also gives those around the gentleman confidence that he will do the right thing at the right time. This confidence is not a Cockiness it’s not an Erica’s but it is just the knowledge that he knows he can do what it takes.

Dating Tip: Get a life! You want to have confidence in yourself based on proven abilities not a kind of a false confidence. When your girlfriend sees your real confidence in yourself and in your abilities then she’ll naturally have confidence in you as well. But if you’re just faking it she’ll see through that pretty fast and be very disappointed in you.

4. Display capability
the strength under control of a gentleman that generates power and ability to change his environment and to touch those around him in a powerful way. now a gentleman could not do everything well but a gentleman can do many things well and especially the important things well. A gentleman is always learning and improving and overcoming difficulties and proving his strength against many scenarios.

Dating tip: you want to find opportunities in your relationship to show what you’re capable of. but you need to balance that because you don’t want to appear as a show-off.

Not overly impressed with self

5. Use Humor
However, a gentleman is not easily impressed with himself. He knows he is capable of many things and he knows his limitations. Because he is not overly impressed with himself, he doesn’t worry if people are especially impressed with him. He is able to use humor to deflate the expectations of both his friends and foes. This kind of humor requires humility. He can use humor to avoid unnecessary conflict.

Dating Tip: Women consider humor a very attractive trait in a man. When someone pays you a compliment, don’t take it too seriously, instead deflect it with self depreciating humor. And if someone really insists on praising you, insist that others deserve to share some of the praise as well.

6. Have bold humility
The gentleman is humble about himself, yet he is also bold because he is not afraid to take action; he has he knows what he can do and he is willing to do what it takes. A gentleman stands up to take responsibility, he takes action to accomplish important things. He does this not to prove that he is important but rather because there are important things that need to be done.

Dating Tip: Don’t boast about yourself or your actions. Instead look for opportunities to do good and let your actions speak for themselves. Firefighters don’t take selfies in the middle of a fire, neither does a gentleman promote himself on a date.

7. Back down when wrong
A gentleman knows that sometimes he makes mistakes he knows that sometimes he’s wrong. And a gentleman is willing to apologize. A gentleman is willing to back down and to de-escalate a confrontation. He also gives others an opportunity to apologize. A gentleman doesn’t need to win, at all costs; he can still maintain his dignity and self-respect.

Dating Tip: A woman is always monitoring how her man deals with conflict. She will think that you are foolish if you escalate conflicts to protect your ego. And she will think that you are both stupid and stubborn if you won’t listen to her “wisdom”. My advice is the only fight the important battles and let others win the small stuff. That makes you look magnanimous.

8. Stand up for the underdog
A gentleman doesn’t decide who’s right based on who has the might. A gentleman is willing to stand up for those who need help and for those who are downtrodden. He’s willing to face authority and speak truth to power; he’s willing to defend the weak. A gentleman is willing to defy The madness of the crowd in order to champion the individual.

Dating Tip: Women tend to be more emotional and subjective than men. Sometimes, you should do the emotionally correct thing, even if it seems inefficient or unnecessary. For example, generously tipping the waiter and respecting the restaurant staff will go a long way to show that you are a man of good character.

Friendliness

9. Be generous
A gentleman is a true friend and this is very generous for those he cares about. Because the gentleman tends to be a successful person in life, he is able to restrain his personal spending while saving his surplus. This allows him to give gifts to those both to those who are worthy and to those who are needy. A gentleman gives tasteful gifts that have personal meaning to his friends and true charity to others without drawing attention to himself.

Dating Tip: Become a gift giver. Most women, though not all appreciate small, thoughtful gifts that show you care. If you are with a woman who does not appreciate gifts, you often can show your affection through service or praise. If you are generous with your time, money and effort, you will win the heart of women all over the world.

10. Be loyal
A gentleman is always loyal to his family and friends. This loyalty means he will stand up to protect and defend them. But it also means that he will confront his friends when they are wrong and he will tell them the painful truth that other so-called friends are afraid to mention. A gentleman knows that the wounds of a friend are more precious than the treasures of an enemy.

Dating Tip: Always support your friends and especially your girlfriend in public. Agree with them as much as possible when they are in emotional distress. But keep them from doing something harmful/stupid. If you need to correct them, do it in private when the other person is calm.

11. Trust
A gentleman trusts himself just as he trusts those around him. Trust everyone as much as possible. Even after you have broken the trust of a gentleman he will give you opportunities to prove yourself again. This is because a gentleman knows that humans are weak and fail; we don’t live up to the standard of perfection. Therefore he extends mercy and grace to those who perhaps don’t deserve it.

Dating Tip: Although it can be difficult to trust your girlfriend at times, error on the side of too much trust. If she is guilty of lying or cheating, it will eventually be exposed. There is nothing wrong with emphasizing the importance of faithfulness, in fact, most women want you to show a bit of jealousy. But if you make a big deal over nothing, then you are the bad guy.

12. Be teachable
A gentleman is always willing to learn. I’ve often said that a wise man can learn from a fool but a fool can’t learn from anyone. A gentleman is always expanding his knowledge, expanding his abilities, always seeking wisdom and knowledge, experience, and skill. He doesn’t rest on his laurels. Instead, even from those considered below him he can learn valuable things.

Dating Tips: Don’t overdo the mansplaining. The women in your life know many things. Respect this knowledge and learn from them. Women like to talk a lot about feelings and relationships and complain that,most men are poor listeners. The first step of learning is being a good listener.

Consideration

13. Be kind
A gentleman is kind. Both gentlemen and nice guys are kind. The difference between a nice guy and a gentleman is that a nice guy lacks certain qualities that a gentleman has. The nice guy lacks assertiveness. He would like to do certain things but he refrains because he is afraid. The gentleman is not afraid to assert himself, but out of kindness, he refrains from using his strength as he truly does not wish to hurt other people.

Dating Tip: You are the alpha of the relationship with your girlfriend, but you must always consider her wants, needs, and desires. Women consider kindness one of the most important male qualities. Kindness makes you attractive and influences a woman’s mood. You are not a butcher driving sheep to the market. You are the shepherd, tenderly caring for your flock.

14. Be discreet
One of the most famous qualities of a gentleman is that he is discreet. If the world were full of gentlemen, Twitter would dry up and blow away. A gentleman does not wish to engage in controversy, nor does he wish to stir up trouble. A gentleman prefers to look away from the flaws and the mistakes of others.

Dating Tip: Don’t point out the errors and faux pas of your date. If she makes a mistake and show embarrassment, make a light joke about it, but not at her expense. Keep her secrets and don’t gossip about others to her. While it is tempting to ingratiate yourself by down talking others, she will wonder what you tell others about her, creating insecurity.

15. Forgive
A gentleman forgives those who have injured him in some way. The gentleman prefers not to retaliate The Gentlemen Prefer is not to seek revenge. This is not because the gentleman is weak, it is the gentleman does not wish for his strength to be used in such an unhelpful way. Revenge usually lead to more revenge on a larger scale. Instead, the gentleman often finds the best way to overcome conflicts is to forgive others.

Dating Tip: Once you forgive someone, don’t bring up the problem again. If you keep thinking about your date’s error, you have not really forgiven her. Unless your girlfriend directly asks for forgiveness, don’t say, “I forgive you.” That just sound obnoxious and antagonistic to those who haven’t asked for forgiveness. Instead, quietly, in your own mind, forgive her and then move on.

16. Be patient
A gentleman is a patient, there are two meanings of patience, one is longsuffering and the other is slow to anger. Even when others to disappoint him and repeat the same mistakes again and again, he acts with kindness. The gentleman Has the strength to wait for others to learn their lessons to turn away from their destructive habits.

Dating Tip: Some people are very slow to learn new information and adjust to reality. And others are very inefficient communicators. On my dates, I have be to very patient both in explaining things to others and in waiting for them to explain themselves. If you ever feel like that, remember that a gentleman must be patient and humble.

Fight when necessary

17. Be zealous
While it is true that gentlemen avoid conflict whenever possible, sometimes conflict is necessary. A gentleman will fight and will not back down under the right circumstances. He is very zealous not for himself but for the safety and reputation of those around him. He will not let his loved ones suffer slander or physical harm. He will not remain silent while those he loves, he will defend, he will overcome his enemies. PS. Not all fights are physical.

Dating Tip: Don’t let others insult or intimidate your girlfriend. If you are outnumbered, just get both of you out of there in one piece. Conflict should never be your first choice, especially when anyone could be packing a knife or a gun. If you are going to fight, make sure you know what you are doing. Definitely get some situational awareness and combat training before defending someone’s honor.

18. Have courage
Some foolish people may think that the gentleman refrains from fighting because he is afraid. But in fact, the gentleman is very courageous. The gentleman is willing and able to strike his foes to damage the will, the body, and the ambitions of those would harm his family and friends.

Dating Tip: If you fight often enough, you will take a beating. When you stand up for the weak, sometimes the strong win anyway. Be a man a face adversity. Don’t make excuses and don’t seek revenge. Most women will appreciate your sacrifice, but sometimes you take your lumps and the girl dumps you. Remember that you are standing up because it’s right, not to impress others.

19. Respect your opponent
A gentleman will not speak ill of his enemies. He will respect them, even as he does his best to defeat them. And after he defeats them, he doesn’t gloat over them and he doesn’t mock them. He hopes the conflict has taught his opponent a lesson and that they can one day repair the relationship and work together.

Dating Tip: Some women like to create conflict. If you are with a woman who gets excited by fighting, get away from her as fast as a gentleman can. Other women attack with words while complain about toxic masculinity. If your date cannot understand the importance of a physically aggressive defense, get away from her too.

20. Fight to win
A gentleman never underestimates his opponent. A gentleman doesn’t waste his time with displays of vanity and useless aggression. Instead, a gentleman waits for the right opportunity and then strikes with overwhelming force to gain victory as quickly as possible. A good fight is a short one. The longer the fight continues, the worse things can go.

Dating Tip: Have a defense plan if you are going to any place where there may be a fight. Have your girlfriend get some self defense training, too. Then the two of you can work as a team to get out of danger or eliminate a threat. Or just don’t go anywhere dangerous ever.


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2 Responses

  1. Glenys says:

    Thank you for these 20 great suggestions about dating tips for gentlemen.
    I can see that you have put a lot of thought into this list. I like your suggestions to use humor and to be generous and loyal. These are all great qualities to have in a person.
    I was just wondering what qualities you look for yourself?

    Do you think these qualities are timeless or do you think they will change over time as society changes?

    • admin says:

      The qualities of humor, generosity and loyalty are times qualities of gentlemen around the world. They will not change. I do well with humor and loyalty, but I lack generosity. Fortunately, my wife is very generous, so she helps me be more of a gentleman.

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